Hi Nina,
I am actually not from Canada but from overseas, visiting for a couple weeks here on some business. I am a married man but deep down there is a huge desire for me to become a cross dresser. I like to wear women’s clothes and makeup. I don’t know why, I just love it. I have never had sex with a man, but there is a big desire for me to do that too. Since now I am far away from my family, is there any place in Calgary that I could show off the real me? Even though Calgary is more liberal than my country, I am still afraid of coming out and wearing a dress, which I really long to do. Could you please give me some advice?
Thank you!
Andi
Dear Andi,
This sure is a tough one. While on one hand I would love nothing more than to be supportive, I can’t ignore that other parties are involved. (ie. Your family!!) I suggest that an honest approach is always the best policy. I encourage you to get on the internet or start a dialogue with someone with some form of counseling background. Not being yourself is like carrying a “ticking time bomb” – you can ignore it and wait to see if it goes off, or be proactive and diffuse it.
For most people our self discovery years are in our teens. Perhaps the real you has been suppressed long enough and so you feel ready for your maiden voyage – that’s great! But you don’t want to launch a Titanic. You can rock the boat a little and have some fun, but the sex issue may be the sinker. If you really want to get all prettied up and go out, try the Gay bars first. The patrons there are going to be more receptive to cross dressers, as it is a part of our everyday culture. I wish you the best of luck my dear, so go break a heel girl!
Yours truly,
Nina Tron
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