Dear Nina,

Recently I found out that my ex boyfriend has found another man. He and I were together on and off for three or so years. Recently we broke up and before I was even out of the apartment he had hooked with this twink. I know that we were eventually both going to meet other people but should there be a mourning period? Please help settle this matter for me, I am I right or am I wrong?

- Lost at Sea

Dear Lost,

Well first off, sorry to hear about your break up! But sweetie you have got to pull yourself together and stop this constant obsession with whether you are right or wrong. There is no right or wrong answer. Besides, you all broke up, so I would say he’s Mr. Wrong anyways. I’ve asked around and really there is no clear or specific answer. From what I have gathered, most people agree at least 3 months, but it varies for everyone. Take whatever time you need before you yourself start dating, but you can’t expect others to follow as well. YOUR rules are only yours.

Now if you’re asking if I think he’s a complete ass for dating some guy before you even were out of the house, HELL YEAH!! I can only say that nobody deserves to be kicked when they’re down. Really though, by sounds of things my dear, you are way better off without him. Now get out of that rutt girl, and get back in the game. And remember there are many more fish in the sea. Can I get an ‘amen’ in the room?!

Best wishes,

Nina