I’ve been reading about Kenneth Weishuhn, a
14-year-old who recently took his own life after reportedly enduring death
threats after coming out as gay at school. Especially heartbreaking was that,
according to the Huffington Post, Weishuhn had a Pinterest page with a
"When I get married" section featuring "photos of vintage menswear,
candle centerpieces and wedding cake toppers depicting two grooms."
In other words, the kid really did think he had a future.
And yet, now he doesn’t.
And neither do the many other LGBT kids who have
killed themselves because they felt that death was a better option than this
painful, cruel world.
Which is why I feel angry when I watch Heather
Wilson, a New Mexico Republican running for U.S. Senate, shrug off bullying and
deride Senator Al Franken’s (D-Minn.) attempt to do something about it.
Franken’s Student Non-Discrimination Act, a.k.a. SB
555, would, according to Franken’s website, establish "a comprehensive federal
prohibition against discrimination and bullying in public schools based on
sexual orientation or gender identity."
In an April 12 debate, Wilson stated her opposition
to the bill, and demonstrated a lack of regard for LGBT young people and showed
that she doesn’t seem to be aware of or care about the rash of LGBT suicides.
She begins by saying she can hardly imagine a bill
that she and Franken might agree on, but that this certainly isn’t one of them.
She continues, "[SB 555] is an act that would
criminalize harassment or bullying in schools of children who are gay or who -
it criminalizes bullying."
If you watch the video you’ll see how hard it is for
Wilson to even say "gay." She stumbles around that word like a pair of roller
skates on a stairway. Perhaps she has a hard time with the idea that children
could be gay at all. That a child, especially a young one, could "know" his or
her sexual orientation feels, to some, kind of icky. A seven-year-old who
declares he loves and wants to kiss Justin Bieber freaks people out. But if
that boy says the same thing about Selena Gomez, no problem. There’s no
difference in the level of sexuality in either statements. The level of stigma,
however, is vastly different.
Wilson says that SB 555 is "misplaced."
"With respect to this particular agenda we have to
recognize as parents that children tease each other because you're short or
you're tall or you're a redhead or because you're ugly or because you're smart
or because you're dumb or all kinds of differences and as parents we have to
deal with that and strengthen our children to be comfortable with themselves
and also to show empathy and acceptance towards others," she says.
She’s right in that the best way to stop bullying is
to raise kids to be confident in who they are and caring towards others. But
texting a gay kid with death threats or making his life a living hell with
constant harassment is not the same thing as being teased because you wear
glasses. Sure, you could argue that even if Weishuhn’s school had some kind of
anti-bullying policy that he may have still killed himself. But by making
discrimination against LGBT kids official policy a school or a state or even a
federal government is saying, "We acknowledge this is happening, we want it to
stop, and we’re not fucking around." It sends a message to these kids that they
matter. That someone not only knows that they are alive, but wants them to stay
that way.