Suicide
is one of those things with no positives. I mean, no one kills him or herself
because things are going well. Even assisted suicide, intended to have the
positive outcome of allowing someone to die with dignity, is proceeded by some
of the worst life has to offer.
So
I don’t fear offending anyone when I say that suicide is really fucking
horrible no matter what age the person is. But there’s something especially sad
about young people taking their own lives. Feeling like, "Hey, 15 (or 13 or 10
or, my god, even younger than that) years is enough of this cruel world and I
don’t see anything worth sticking around for."
And
everybody asks, "Why? Why did this child do this terrible thing?" We want there
to be a reason. Something solid we can point at and say, "This."
For
all too many LGBT kids the reason we turn to is bullying. Being called a faggot
or a dyke or getting physically assaulted day in and day out while school
authority figures look on (and all too often they do) can be a little much for
a kid to handle.
Which
is why anti-bulling legislation is such a hot topic these days. I mean, no one
wants kids to be bullied in school. But these bills face strong opposition
because they often include explicit protections for LGBT youth. This, of
course, acknowledges a couple of things that make some people uncomfortable:
that gay kids exist and that other kids – even straight, Christian ones – are
making their lives a living hell.
Enter
State Rep. Jeremy Faison speaking out against cyber bullying legislation in
Tennessee.
"We
can’t continue to legislate everything. We’ve had some horrible things happen
in America and in our state, and there’s children that have actually committed
suicide, but I will submit to you today that they did not commit suicide
because of somebody bullying them," he said.
According
to the Tennessean, the "horrible things" that happened in "our state" he’s
referring to are probably the January, 2012 suicide of 14-year-old Phillip
Parker and the December, 2011 suicide of 18-year-old Jacob Rogers. Both boys
killed themselves following prolonged anti-gay harassment.
So,
if bullying didn’t cause these suicides, what did cause them, Faison?
"They
committed suicide because they were not instilled the proper principles of
where their self-esteem came from at home," he said.
Ah.
Of course. Had their parents only done a better job teaching them to hold their
heads high while people called them "faggot" and told them they were going to
hell and nobody at their schools seemed to do much to protect them. Because, as
we all know, teenagers are definitely emotionally stable and confident and not
at all influenced by their peers.
So,
yeah, according to Faison, your kid killing him or herself isn’t something that
has anything to do with him. It’s just a big Parenting FAIL.
Keep
in mind that Tennessee is a state where Senate Republicans want to change "the
state's anti-bullying law to exempt condemnations of homosexuality based on
religion," according to the Huffington Post.
But
don’t worry, Faison apologized.
"After
reviewing my comments on the House Floor today, I regret what was a poor choice
of words," he said. "My true intent was to protect children from becoming
criminals. Suicide has touched my family, and I would never want a parent or
family member to feel they were responsible for such an unimaginable tragedy."
Unless,
of course, your kid is gay. Because that’s totally your fault.
Ah. Of course. Had their parents only done a better job teaching them to hold their heads high while people called them “faggot” and told them they were going to hell…